Control is Overrated

Yes, that LUMP under all those covers is none other than our Roma Tomato! She's home! For good this time! She's just sleeping off a little bit of jet lag.

Superman and I left Vernal on Saturday Morning. Roma Tomato left Auckland NZ that evening for Los Angeles. By Sunday afternoon we had her in our arms. Safe and sound. 1600 mile round trip for Superman and I. Many more miles for RT.

It's been 8 long months but it's much better than the 5 years it was going to be and we are so thankful to RT's mum for sending her back to us. It seems we have all FINALLY come to an understanding that Planet Vernal is where she belongs for now. We have FINALLY been able to express to each other that I am not trying to take mum's place in RT's life, that mum will ALWAYS be mum and I am blessed and honored to be a part of raising her beautiful girl.

My hope is that this will be the beginning of a partnership, maybe even a friendship (and yes, I think that would be wonderful) between all of us to ensure that RT has the best of everything we can teach her.

But the best part of this whole experience has been what I have learned. I've always been told that God is in control. That everything happens for a reason. Being a control freak myself, sometimes, MOST times, I am not the most gracious when it comes to giving it up to God. I kick and scream and rage at the universe. I cry, I sulk and I truly feel as my world is coming to an end. So you can imagine my surprise that things have turned out the way they have.

Who would have thought that by ending the fighting, by giving it up to God, sending RT to New Zealand that it would be RT herself who would become the peacemaker? It was her becoming the go-between that helped us to meet in the middle and get to know each other on a whole other level. She handled herself with grace and wisdom beyond her years. I know God had a hand in that. He gave her strength and wisdom and he gave all of us "adults" the bop on the head we needed to see things from her point of view.

Roma Tomato is home, Superman, RT's mum and I are understanding each other and working as a team and I have gained empathy and compassion by allowing a greater power to take the reins. We can finally move forward instead of turning in circles and going nowhere.

I am truly truly humbled and thankful and I can't wait to see what happens next.